Everything you need to know before starting volunteering and participating in a long-term project: tips from a psychologist who has been through this journey.
Participation in volunteering projects often becomes the key to successful admission or landing a desired job offer. It is not only an opportunity to provide selfless help but also a chance to broaden ones horizons, make useful connections, and gain valuable experience. How do you choose the right project, mentally prepare for it, and not be afraid of new experiences? We will discuss this in the article together with psychologist Olga, a practising Gestalt consultant, and representative of young Belarusian civil society.
– Tell us about your first volunteering experience. What was it like?
To be honest, it wasn’t easy. It’s definitely not like travelling to a dream destination. Throughout my volunteering experience, I went through different stages of adaptation. It felt like moving to another country – facing various challenges, immersing myself in a new environment, and adjusting to unfamiliar conditions. But as with any new experience that triggers such a reaction, the most important thing is to give yourself time. And that’s my key message to the readers. I held onto this phrase. Now, I use it in my personal work with clients as well. When they face many difficulties or encounter something new, I remind them to “give time some time.”
– As a psychologist, can you explain why our body reacts this way, even when we are expecting a positive experience? How does it work?
That’s how a human brain is wired. Any change is accompanied by stress. Everyone experiences stress differently, but in general, there are several stages of adaptation to new conditions.
The first stage is enthusiasm. There’s excitement about the new experience and opportunities. After some time, the stage of cultural shock sets in. This happens at different times for different people – it can take anywhere from a few days to a couple of weeks. The shock comes from the novelty itself. Our brain is used to routines and resists new experience, perceiving it as something unsafe, triggering an energy-saving mode. But sooner or later, this new experience also becomes routine. This stage often includes irritation due to differences.
For example, in your home country, people might behave in a certain way, while in another country, they act differently. Even small things can confuse the brain. Cultural shock often brings feelings of loneliness and disorientation. But it passes. As I mentioned before, giving yourself time is the main rule.
Then comes the adaptation stage. The differences are still noticeable, but they no longer cause such strong emotional reactions. Gradually, fear and stress are replaced by curiosity and interest, which help you move forward.
The final stage is integration. At this point, you feel comfortable in the new environment, your work on the project becomes enjoyable, and you have more time and desire to connect with people and continue expanding your horizons.
– How can you stay motivated during these transitional stages?
It’s important to remember that a project will bring many positive experiences into your life. At the very least, it’s an ideal opportunity to expand your world-view. When it comes to motivation, it varies for everyone. Some want to travel or learn a new language, others seek a break from their routine, and some join a volunteer project for career or academic opportunities. Keeping your focus on your initial goal for the project can play a significant role in maintaining motivation.
In any volunteer project, it’s crucial to find personal meaning from the start. You choose a project based on your interests and needs. If you apply for a project that doesn’t truly resonate with you, it can create additional challenges. That’s why it’s essential to take the time to find the right project.
– Will there be time for personal life? How well does work-life balance hold up in a volunteer project?
Volunteering can take up a significant portion of your time, especially at the beginning when you’re still settling in. That’s why it’s important to choose a project that is both interesting and comfortable for you. After all, you’ll be spending most of your time on it. I’m now in my ninth month of volunteering abroad, and I’ve gone through several adaptation stages. I can confidently say: you can handle it and be prepared for everything new that this experience brings.
– What concrete steps can be taken to minimise difficulties during these stages?
It may sound simple, but this is what actually works. Creating a new routine is essential. If you always have coffee in the morning or watch a movie in the evening, keep those habits in your new environment. Or establish new ones, such as taking a walk after work.
Building new connections is also very important. At first, it can be challenging, but social interactions are key to adapting quickly. In the end, humans are social beings, and we always need someone nearby, especially during difficult periods. Try not to limit your social circle to just colleagues or expats. If you struggle with a language barrier, this is a great opportunity to overcome it, practising is the most important part of learning any language. When I first started meeting locals, we communicated in multiple languages and even used gestures. And if you don’t understand something in a conversation, don’t hesitate to ask for a rephrase or more details for context.
Don’t forget about physical activity. Regular exercise is one of the best ways to relieve stress. It doesn’t have to be intense workouts, it can even be a simple “stupid walk for my stupid mental health.” Just taking a walk can help you process stress, get some fresh air, and clear your mind. There’s no minimum, sometimes even five minutes can make a difference.
If these steps don’t help you cope with stress in a new environment, remember that seeking psychological support is always an option. This could be just a few sessions to get advice on adjusting to new circumstances or a longer process of working with a specialist.
Above all, be kind to yourself, especially in difficult moments. Try to stay present and notice what’s happening around you. Volunteering offers countless opportunities, experiences, connections, and personal growth.
What I do know is that despite all the difficulties, in 12 months of volunteering I have never heard of anyone regretting it in the end. It is a valuable and diverse opportunity that helps you get to know a new country, culture, people, work and see something new in yourself.
| This article was initially published at the ADU.PLACE platform |
